Lube: it’s one of the most popular yet often misunderstood additions to the bedroom. Sure, many people buy it, but even today, a stigma can make its way into the experience. Ever heard of “lube shaming”? In a recent article, we touched on how some still resist reaching for a bottle of lube, viewing it as a crutch rather than what it truly is—an enhancement to make sex feel better. After all, that’s what we all want from intimacy, right? To enjoy, have fun...
Think about it: lubrication is essential to why sex feels good. Without it, sex would be like rubbing sandpaper together—ouch! In a way, lube becomes the smooth connection between partners, amplifying every sensation and ensuring that every touch and movement communicates just the right amount of pleasure. And while “more is more” can be true for lubrication, it doesn’t mean you need to swim in a pool of it every time you get intimate—unless that’s exactly what you’re aiming for!
Types of Lube: Finding the Right One for You
When it comes to choosing the right lube, the options can feel endless. You might see water-based, silicone-based, oil-based, and even hybrids on the shelf—but which one is right for you? Let’s set up some basics to help make the decision process easier.
Water-Based Lube
Best for: All-around use, sex toys, condoms, and easy clean-up. Water-based lubes are the most popular choice and for a good reason: they’re compatible with almost everything. From latex condoms to all types of toys, this lube type is designed to work with your entire sex toolkit. Plus, water-based lube washes off easily with a little water—no sticky aftermath! However, it can dry out faster than other types, so keep the bottle nearby if you need a re-apply.
Pros: Safe with all toy materials, condoms, and easy to rinse off.
Cons: Dries out more quickly, so reapplication may be needed for longer sessions.
Oral Friendliness: Generally mouth-safe since they’re usually tasteless and easy to clean, making it a versatile choice for switching between activities.
Silicone-Based Lube
Best for: Shower play, long-lasting sessions, and anal. Silicone-based lubes are durable and ideal for longer sessions. They work well underwater, making them a go-to for steamy shower or bath play. And when it comes to anal play, silicone lube’s smooth consistency is a fan favorite. One thing to note: avoid using it with silicone toys as it may damage them over time, the silicone molecules in the lube interact with the material of the toy, breaking it down over time. This can create a sticky, degraded surface on the toy, which isn’t ideal for safe or comfortable use. So, when using silicone toys, it’s best to stick to water-based or compatible hybrid lubes to keep them in good shape.
Pros: Very long-lasting, with a smooth, silky texture that’s great for sensitive skin.
Cons: Not suitable with silicone toys, as it can degrade the material. Slightly harder to wash off after use.
Oral Friendliness: Less ideal for oral use, as it’s harder to clean from the mouth and can leave a residue. Less reapplication is a bonus, so if you're going for silicone, choose a flavored option.
Oil-Based Lube
Best for: External play, massages, and solo sessions (without condoms). Oil-based lubes bring a natural, rich texture that’s perfect for massage or solo sessions. Often used in anal play for its thicker consistency. Coconut oil, a popular natural option, has a hydrating effect on the skin. However, oil-based lubes aren’t compatible with latex condoms and can be harder to wash off. But for those seeking a lush, sensory experience, they’re a fantastic option for external pleasure.
Pros: Long-lasting and natural-feeling, often derived from skin-friendly ingredients like coconut oil.
Cons: Not compatible with latex condoms, as it can degrade them. Oil-based lubes may also stain fabrics and are harder to wash off.
Oral Friendliness: Not generally recommended for oral, as they can leave a strong aftertaste and may be unpleasant in the mouth. However, some natural oils, like coconut oil, are edible and might appeal for certain uses.
Hybrid Lube
Best for: Those who want the best of both worlds. Hybrid lubes combine elements of water-based and silicone lubes, offering the best of both worlds: long-lasting yet easy to wash off. They’re safe with latex condoms and toys but still provide a slick feel without drying out quickly. They’re a top choice for anyone wanting a multi-purpose lube that’s both practical and pleasurable.
Pros: Long-lasting, smooth texture with fewer reapplications needed. Safe for most toy materials and easy to wash off compared to pure silicone-based options.
Cons: Though compatible with most toys, check your toy’s material to avoid possible reactions. Some hybrids may also contain additives, which may not suit sensitive skin.
Oral Friendliness: Generally safe for oral, but taste and texture may vary, so check labels if you’re looking for something particularly palatable.
Choosing the Right Lube: It All Depends on Your Desires
At the end of the day, the "best" lube is the one that aligns with what you want out of your experience. Looking for something long-lasting and silky? Silicone might be your match. Craving versatility and ease of cleanup? Water-based has your back. The lube you choose should adapt to your preferences, whether it’s for enhanced sensation, prolonged play, or simply smoother encounters.
Creative Ways to Use Lube Beyond the Usual
Lube isn’t just for standard sexual activities; it opens the door to a whole array of creative experiences that enhance intimacy and pleasure. Here are a few ways to think outside the bottle:
Massage Starter: A smooth silicone-based or hybrid lube works wonders as a massage aid before things heat up. It can help set the mood and transition seamlessly into other activities.
Temperature Play: Some lubes, especially water-based, can be safely warmed or cooled. Try storing it in warm water (not too hot!) or cooling it in the fridge for a sensory twist.
Nipple Play Upgrade: A drop of lube on the nipples can make even the lightest touch electrifying.
Prostate Adventures: If you're exploring prostate play, lube is a must—and with the right type, every movement is amplified.
Foot Fetish Fun: Lubed-up feet add a whole new layer to foot play, letting your partner glide and tease in ways that aren’t normally possible.
Ear Love: Surprise! The sensitive skin around the ear loves a little extra attention, and a dab of lube can add a sensual slide to kisses and nibbles.
Backdoor Bonus: Not just for anal play—lube adds extra comfort and smoothness if you're experimenting with different sensations around that area.
Experimenting with Edging: Lube can make edging more comfortable and exciting, especially during extended solo or partnered play. The added slickness lets you focus on sensation and control.
Deepthroat Assistance: A flavored, desensitizing lube can ease the intensity of deepthroat play. We especially recommend Doc Johnson's line of Deepthroat lubricants for its wide range of flavors, you can find them now in our shop.
At its best, lube brings a quiet ease, letting moments flow naturally, making room for connection without the need for words. It’s that simple layer that helps deepen intimacy and explore new sensations. In the end, it’s less about the lube itself and more about the closeness it invites, the trust it encourages, and the comfort it brings.
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